By Edith Adams

Wednesday, August 24, 1955

Your invitation must come from your friend’s mother who should set the length of your stay. If she forgets, you must suggest a time for departure when you accept the invitation.

Arrive and depart on the dot. Even when asked to extend a visit, it’s usually better to depart as prearranged. Upon arrival, seek your hostesws (your friend’s mother, of course) to thank her for inviting you.

Be an early bird about bed-making if you aren’t, you hostess may beat you to it. Keep your room neat. Don’t litter the bathroom.

Show pleasure in all plans for your entertainment. Be prepared, with books or knitting, say, to entertain yourslef while your friend performs duties you can’t share. Share all duties you can and without to-do. Reaching for a dish cloth is smarter than asking for one.

Appear at the breakfast table neat and fully dressed unless your hostess has suggested you wear a robe. Look upon the phone as poison ivy. Necessary calls, make. Incoming calls, keep brief. Toll calls, pay for.

See the rest of the house with unprying eyes. (By the way, praise – if continuous – of your own home, town, state, or school can make mighty dull listening.)

Prim and proper people consider it ill-bred for a guest to offer to pay for anything. If your hostess takes you for a drive and a wayside stop for tea you’re not to open your purse. There are households, however, where that rule isn’t observed and where you’ll be more popular if you provide a treat (but tactfully) now and then.

Tell your hostess if you break anything. If she declines your offer to replace it, report matters to your parents. If the home has a servant, a small money gift may be left. A genuine thank-you for services must be expressed.

Before leaving look around to make sure you haven’t left anything. (Don’t make your bed the last morning. Turn it down neatly). Farewells to each member of the family and thank0you’s especially to your host and hostess.

Within two days, no later, of your departure, write a bread-and-butter note. And forever after keep silent if you are tempted to make an unkind or too personal remark about this family whose hospitality you have enjoyed.

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